You can eat well, take the supplements, do all the right things, and still feel depleted. The conversation I wish more women were having in their late 30s and 40s.
This was really well done. What I appreciated most is that you did not reduce it to “just manage stress better.” You showed how the whole picture connects: perimenopause, the invisible mental load, the gut, sleep, emotional resilience, and the way the body starts whispering long before it starts screaming. And that question what am I carrying that I was never meant to carry alone, is probably the real entry point for a lot of women!
That question is the one. I’ve sat with women who had optimized everything on the outside and still felt depleted. The body was keeping score. What I find is that no amount of the right things can compensate for a nervous system that never gets to stop. This piece says what so many women need to hear.
Hey Marc, Do you see a lack of sleep, or true rest, being a source of challenges to your coaching clients? Or at least, that they are neglecting it, and the lack thereof adds to the nervous system not being able to cope.
Absolutely Cerina. What I find is that most people treat sleep as what’s left after everything else is done. The nervous system doesn’t recover from that. We think we go to bed and everything calms down — but the nervous system doesn’t get that memo. A dysregulated nervous system can’t do the emotional work, in relationships or anywhere else. Rest isn’t a reward. It’s infrastructure.
This was really well done. What I appreciated most is that you did not reduce it to “just manage stress better.” You showed how the whole picture connects: perimenopause, the invisible mental load, the gut, sleep, emotional resilience, and the way the body starts whispering long before it starts screaming. And that question what am I carrying that I was never meant to carry alone, is probably the real entry point for a lot of women!
Thanks for writing this!
Thanks for taking the time to read, Riza
Always :)
That question is the one. I’ve sat with women who had optimized everything on the outside and still felt depleted. The body was keeping score. What I find is that no amount of the right things can compensate for a nervous system that never gets to stop. This piece says what so many women need to hear.
Hey Marc, Do you see a lack of sleep, or true rest, being a source of challenges to your coaching clients? Or at least, that they are neglecting it, and the lack thereof adds to the nervous system not being able to cope.
Absolutely Cerina. What I find is that most people treat sleep as what’s left after everything else is done. The nervous system doesn’t recover from that. We think we go to bed and everything calms down — but the nervous system doesn’t get that memo. A dysregulated nervous system can’t do the emotional work, in relationships or anywhere else. Rest isn’t a reward. It’s infrastructure.